Ladies don’t know this but men constantly reveal their frustration to each other when they can’t get their lady to climax and the ones who have gotten their lady to climax always boast about it with fellow men.
There are a million and one reasons you can’t get that lady to climax, I’d share 7 possible reasons why she hasn’t witnessed the ‘big O’ when in the sheets with you.
1. PENETRATIVE SEX ISN’T ALWAYS ENOUGH
Very few ladies would claim to have reached climax while having sex but easily attain orgasm when given oral sex or when they help themselves out—so this really means penetrative isn’t really the easier option. A woman’s pleasure and orgasm is more likely to occur from the stimulation of the clit. The clit is highly sensitive and full of nerve endings while in contrast the V-walls have relatively fewer nerve endings.
Many people don’t know this but stress has quite an effect on a woman’s ability to climax. Having a balanced life is one of the keys to boosting libido; stress can sap a person’s libido by affecting hormones and mood. However sexual arousal is a form of good stress which the body resolves by climaxing. Your diet, rest and physical activities all have an effect on your sexual life, so if a woman is getting the negatives from those, it would affect her orgasmic level on the long run.
3. THE MIND-SET
The mind-set also plays a huge role in a lady’s orgasm. If she isn’t in the mood for sex and she has sex with you, reaching climax would be totally difficult because the mind actually almost controls the body. Climaxing could be psychological as researchers have found that anxiety, depression and a whole lot disturbing the mind can make a woman not to climax. In other words, your mind has to be relaxed and free before you can actually climax.
Most men don’t really have that patience for foreplay and that in itself is a major reason why you can’t lead her to climax. Foreplay is the stimulant that could lead her on to climaxing; adequate time should be spent on foreplay as so many sensitive parts of the body are discovered during foreplay. So many women have admitted climaxing just by stimulation around their breasts—that’s the power of foreplay.
5. HOW IS THE NON-SEXUAL PART OF THE RELATIONSHIP
This is also another part most people fail to look at. Sex isn’t just physical, sex is as well psychological and the non-sexual part of the relationship would go a long way in affecting the sexual part of the relationship. What’s the passion like in your relationship? Do the quarrels come in thick and fast? Are you best of friends with your partner? Do you spend lots of time having fun together? You may think these aren’t really necessary but they are; the negatives and positives in the answer to those questions would determine a lot in a woman climaxing.
Yea, sometimes it boils down to even pills that you think are just ordinary. Pills also affect a woman’s orgasmic level. Research has explored the role of anti-depressants in sexual functioning as certain medications seem to affect a woman’s ability to climax. Decreased libido is a frequently reported side effect of certain antidepressants called Selective Serontonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs).
7. FEELINGS OF ANGER AND RESENTMENT
When a lady has this feeling of anger or resentment towards her man, it would be quite a difficult task leading her to climax; I mean, why would she totally enjoy sex with someone she has resentment for? Resentment and anger could lead to a lack of desire in woman’s sexual behaviour and this could make her find it more difficult to climax. So fellas, it’s highly important you put your lady’s feeling into considerable value.
Research has found that as a woman approaches climax, the part of the brain responsible for fear, anxiety and emotion relaxes and lowers in activity, meaning there is more to her climaxing than just physical stimulation. For men, physical stimulation just seems to be quite enough but for a woman it goes beyond that; a woman needs to be emotionally connected, safe, relaxed and balanced to climax, but a huge problem is almost every partner seems to concentrate only on physical stimulation.