People make so many huge mistakes when it comes to dating; not that they plan to but it just happens out of the ordinary; maybe due to the feelings and emotions attached to the person they are dating or intend dating.
There are no rules to dating but there are certain rules you shouldn’t break when dating (sorry for being ironical) but sometimes being overly into someone can just make one lose it and from then onwards how you act and what you do might not turn out to be good for your relationship or even for yourself.
Like I’d always say “we can never learn enough when it comes to relationships and dating”. However, there are ten rules I think almost every guy should adhere to and you probably won’t regret them.
1. ASK HER OUT ONCE
If you like a lady, ask her out once. This is good for your emotions, this is good for your self-esteem, this is good for your respect, it’s good for so many things. When you tend to ask her out as often as the number of times you take your bath, she might get tired of you. Be smooth; ask her out just once, the message has been passed already; don’t follow her up and down like your life depends on it, she’d lose that respect for you. Sometimes, you just need to act like the man that you’re.
2. THE FACT THAT YOU’VE GOTTEN HER DOESN’T MEAN IT ENDS THERE
This is one huge mistake guys make; that you’ve gotten a lady doesn’t mean you should rest on your oars. If you actually do like a lady then getting her shouldn’t be the ultimate, keeping her should. Most guys tend to act casual after winning a lady’s heart; that’s a terrible mistake man; you might end up losing her.
3. BE CONFIDENT
This is one thing that attracts every lady; a man with confidence. Yes, you might have some flaws but the truth is we all have flaws, life is not a movie; no one is perfect. Where confidence helps is that it covers those flaws and makes you seem flawless; this would keep every lady in awe of you. And don’t be deceived, arrogance is not confidence.
4. BE SPONTANEOUS
I love spontaneity and every lady loves a man that’s spontaneous. Be spontaneous, be unpredictable, keep that lady guessing always (in a good way though); let her never have enough of your magic, just keep her on the edge and she would forever be in awe of you.
5. IF YOU DON’T LIKE HER, DON’T DO IT
If you don’t like a lady then don’t ask her out. This is not just a rule, this goes beyond that. If you’re dating a lady you don’t really like, it won’t bring out the best in you, you would just keep struggling to make her happy but when you like a lady it would be all bliss, you would want to make her happy at every point in time.
6. DON’T BE DESPERATE
This is one tip every guy should have at the back of his mind (and even his front too); desperation won’t take you anywhere. Don’t be desperate for sex, don’t be desperate for her to see you, don’t be desperate for anything; it won’t take you anywhere.
7. IF SHE ISN’T RIGHT FOR YOU, SHE ISN’T RIGHT FOR YOU
Most times, we get carried away by superficial things that we forget what’s most important. If a lady isn’t right for you then don’t go about deceiving yourself about how perfect she is for you, you won’t deceive anybody but yourself. Maybe, because of a lady’s beauty and charm, guys get carried away forgetting that compatibility is the most important thing.
8. NEVER FORGET HER BIRTHDAY
No matter what you do, never forget your lady’s birthday; this is another rule that’s a must. No matter how much you love a lady, if you forget her birthday, she won’t be happy with you. Birthdays, anniversaries and all important dates mean a lot to her; I know this won’t be easy for men but try as much as possible to keep those dates in your reminder.
9. IF SHE WON’T TREAT YOU RIGHT, DON’T BOTHER
Sometimes, men get carried away with how they feel about a lady forgetting that how she feels about you is also important; it’s a two-way thing. Don’t go about treating a lady right forgetting that she ought to treat you right as well. Don’t hurt your emotions and feelings over a lady that won’t care about you. She ought to treat you right too.
10. DON’T DATE PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY DATING OTHER PEOPLE
Most times, guys don’t care if a lady is with someone else, they would still want her. But this is actually wrong; don’t date someone else’s lady; there is no gold medal for second place. Being behind the scenes and playing hide and seek games won’t do any good for your ego; you ought to be the man or be the man, there is no second choice.
Now you have it fellas, ten rules that would make you a better man as far as dating and relationship is concerned. Don’t go about making silly mistakes all in the name of love and vanity; they won’t take you anywhere.